Monday, June 8, 2015

Are we done yet?

"Are you done yet?" This is a question I have gotten a few times since we had JAE. Both friends and acquaintances have asked this question to know if we'll have another baby after JAE since we have 2 girls.

Sometimes when people ask me this question, I want to say "its none of your business!" But my mom instilled in me politeness and I often just say "time will tell" or "we don't know." The truth is we just don't know. I always said I'd want to have 3 kids. However, I haven't had the easiest deliveries. And I find myself wondering if I am foolish to be thinking of #3 when #2 just popped out not too long ago.

My girls are awesome. I love them with all of my heart. But part of me also would love to experience what its like to be a mommy to a boy. Which is not to say that I would be disappointed if we go for #3 and end up with another girl. 

My husband would also like a boy but if we go for #3 and its a girl, we would be just as happy. The most important thing is a happy, healthy child.

So in answer to the question "are we done yet", I simply don't know. It is in God's hands. J and I will decide sometime next year if we feel our family is complete. For now, I am thoroughly enjoying being a mommy to 2 awesome, happy and healthy girls. 

J loves his girls. On Sunday after I got up to go pump, J took JAE. She quickly fell asleep. I just had to snap this picture when I came back to the room and saw this. Don't worry...she is safe. We are very careful when she's in our bed.



Our weekly mommy/daughter selfie. Can you tell who will be the kid making faces in pictures? One guess...its the kid who isn't smiling :-). Scroll on...


Apparently, we bore JAE.


And here she is saying "oh you mean, I should smile? But why???"



I love this picture. JOE and JAE truly are the best parts of J and I. I feel so blessed every morning when I wake up to their beautiful faces.




Question of the day:
Would you go for a 3rd child if your first 2 were of the same gender? If so, why or why not?


6 comments:

  1. Your babys are beautiful.....i always wanted 3kids but my hubs wanted 2. Well my first is a boy...when my second child came out he was also a boy. Let me tell you i love my boys to death. But deep inside me i really realllly wanted my mini me. A girl. Hubs said nope we are done with 2. With time i accepted i will be a boy mom even though i did not feel complete deep down. When my second son was 10months i got pregnant on my 31st birthday....(*we had too much birthday fun*). I told my hubby and to my surprise he was so happy. I never checked what the baby was i was praying for a girl so bad. On january 10,2015. God gave me my heart desire , A princess. I am so happy and i feel complete...i have my mini...

    ReplyDelete
  2. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  3. The girls are so beautiful!

    It's one of those questions that I've just learnt to brush off I guess, but that said not many outsiders have asked me though! If we had had another girl we would still have stopped I think cos hubby wanted 1 (I know!) and I wanted 2, I had to beg, hard! Thankfully we have one of each so that's a wrap for us officially, unless God has other plans of course! :) x

    ReplyDelete
  4. Good and encouraging comments. Nice blogging.

    ReplyDelete
  5. J,

    this is probably the million dollar question, if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me about another baby, we would be millionaires.

    You and J will know what makes sense for your family. You make gorgeous girls and I hope and pray that if you have another baby, you end up with a beautiful healthy baby boy. I know you would be happy either way, trust me after 3 boys I would still be happy with another boy, but man it would be beautiful to experience raising each sex. Good luck with whatever decision you make, I hope it ends up with a 3rd baby though ;). I need to have friends in the large family clan with me.

    I am still working on convincing my hubby that we should go for a 4th and I am hoping and praying that it's a girl. Though I would be happy either way, I would be ecstatic with a girl. Number 4 will be our last so I am praying and crossing my fingers and everything. She even has a name :). God is faithful and if it makes sense for my family, I know he will answer the desires of my heart.

    Andrea - That was such a beautiful comment and such an amazing testimony. I am so glad God heard your prayer and answered the desires of your heart.

    ReplyDelete

Follow my blog here

AyoBE

Contact Me

Name

Email *

Message *