Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Children & Regrets?

I came across this article about a woman who regrets having kids last week. I urge you to read through it carefully because while I do not regret having my daughter and never will, I can honestly say I understand what she is saying. Which is not to be confused with agreeing with her.

She clearly loves her kids and did everything she could to ensure their well-being. However, I wonder if she would have been better off not having kids. The last paragraph is what gets me. She says she'd gladly do anything for her kids. That is a clear sign of love. Society may not agree and I may be in the minority but I give her kudos for being honest with herself while at the same time, doing the best she could. Many claim to love their kids only to abuse them. That does not appear to be the case here.

Being a mother has been the most rewarding thing I have done to date. I love waking up and seeing the smile on my daughter's face and I would never regret having her.

What are your thoughts on this article? I think she is just expressing something others out there feel but don't talk about because it is frowned upon.

Happy Tuesday readers!

10 comments:

  1. This was a surprising read. I think surprising because I've never heard a mom actually admit that.

    Maybe she should have waited until she was actually ready. I think because she had them before she was ready she did resent them somewhat.

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    1. The thing is I don't think she would ever have been ready. I think she just never wanted kids. I mean, I commend her for doing her best but yes, I wouldn't want to be that kid who she had out of Pitt for someone else.

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  2. J - this is the most selfish and ridiculous thing I have ever read. I am going to agree to disagree with you on this one.

    I absolutely and utterly cannot relate to this excuse of a mother. What is the point of admitting any of the things that she is saying right now. NONE whatsoever but make her kids feel like the worst human being ever. There is a reason why if you feel theses things you can keep them to yourself.

    If she truly felt that way from when her son was 5 days old then she should have given them for adoption to a family that wanted to shower them with love and affection and go back to spending her alone time reading senseless novels and enjoying her me time. SELFISH.

    Who says to their child's face "I wish I never had you" for the simple reason that I wanted to read a book in peace. Makes me want to vomit.

    Sorry, this really got me. I hope her children don't ever read any of this. Some things are better left unsaid.

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    1. Oh I agree with you. I am not saying I agree with her. Just that I commend her for being honest with herself and still taking good care of the kids. I don't think she should have gone public about it. No one wants to know that they were unwanted. Like she said, her kids knew how she felt. I guess for me, I honestly don't think i'd be able to provide great care for someone if I didn't like them so the fact that she was able to do that is what I commend her for.

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  3. Oh and I wanted to say sorry for being so blunt on this subject, that women really got to me.

    By the way, I've never ever ever felt resentment towards my kids at any time even when they've made me super angry. I just cannot even understand where this woman is coming from it's not like she was forced to have kids. She could have chosen to not have any.

    Ok, I am off my soapbox :)

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    1. Girl, please don't apologize! I agree with your feelings. I would never ever regret having my daughter. Even when I am frustrated, I still am 100% glad I had her.

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  4. Oh wow, that's pretty intense. I agree with Pegster in that some things are better left unsaid. I think I would be so hurt if I knew my mom felt the same way.

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    1. Me too. Children are a blessing. I think they should be cherished not resented.

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  5. I feel so sad about this article, such heartbreaking words. I know motherhood can be hard sometimes but I will never go as far as to say i regret having my daughter. She is my everything, my joy and I wanted her even before I conceived.

    this woman's words cut me so much and I am not even her child. what can her children feel when they know they mother didn't want them. and she doesn't even want to say she had post partum depression. i can't believe it

    just as Pegster says somethings are better kept within because I don't want to hear my mother regret having me. I am so saddened by this article

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    1. I whole-heartedly agree. It was better left unsaid. I am however appreciative of the fact that in spite of her feelings, she still provided her kids with great care. Some people wouldn't do that but she made the effort to. I still don't agree with her feelings though because I LOVE LOVE LOVE my daughter and couldn't imagine life without her.

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